Be A Man

In my 31 years on this planet, I have met many people all over the world. I have been fortunate enough to hang out with the wealthy elite and the unemployed poor. I have lived in the nicest cities and I have lived in the worst ghettos. Through all of this, I have only met 3 different kinds of men.

In recent years, I’ve realized that these 3 kinds of man can be labeled with basic imagery terms to make it simple to remember them. I’ve been able to not only judge people’s ability to perform from these basic terms, but I’ve also been able to figure out how I can profit from my relationship with them. If you’re going to be a regular reader of this site, you’ll understand that the terms “profit” and “relationship” are key to being a man, and there is nothing wrong with combining the terms.

My imagery words to label the 3 different kinds of man are bird names: hawk, chicken and vulture. The images that pop into your head upon thinking of those 3 words is exactly the way I will explain the man and what he is about, at his base.

80% of men I meet are chickens — they’re meek, they’re shy, they’re uncertain and they’re definitely not in control of the relationships they’re half of (lovers, business, family and friends). You might be considered a chicken if you fear interaction and confrontation and you’re worried about showing self-interest to the other party. I was a chicken for more than half of my life before I realized what I’ll be telling you here.

About 19% of men I meet are vultures — they’re jerks, they’re irresponsible, they’re broke, they’re possibly abusive, they demand respect and the chickens wonder why they get all the attractive women. The common term for a vulture is “asshole” especially from a chicken’s perspective.

The remaining 1% are the hawks — they’re self assured, they’re capable of making and holding eye contact with everyone, they’re the first one to put people at ease, they don’t demand respect but they command it anyway, and you’re not quite sure of what they’re about, but you want to know more. This is the end goal of what I’m providing here — to turn you chickens into hawks and to make sure the vultures stay away. I’m a geek, but a geek-hawk. There’s nothing wrong with being in control of yourself and getting what you want, as long as everyone you interact with get what they want as well. That’s the power of being a hawk — you learn what the key to every relationship interaction is: mutual gain.

When it comes to dating advice, it all falls into line with my living advice. There are no secrets, really, nothing special to learn or books to buy. Some people I’ve spoken to initially though that I was trying to mimic Doc Love or Fast Seduction but I’m not. I have no desire to turn you into those “by the book” guys who end up being vultures. I want you to be a Man, not a macho moron. There’s a big difference.