As I mentioned in “What is a Man”, the most common form of Man is the chicken. I honestly believe that 4 out of 5 in the U.S. fall into this category. I myself was within this group for the first 16-17 years of my life.

How do you know if you are, too?

Do you have female friends who are “just friends”? Do you tend to take orders at your place of employ and rarely give orders? Do you always accept a price for a product or service and never haggle? Do you tend to believe what you are told and rarely question the desires of others?

In terms of dating, being the chicken is almost as bad as being the vulture. This type of Man often hears “Why can’t my boyfriend be just like you?” or “I won’t date you as I don’t want to ruin our friendship.” Ouch. If you’ve heard these lines, you’re there, friend.

As I’ve previously mentioned, all relationships that are to be considered successful can be rated a success when one simple fact is met: both parties walk away from each relationship transaction with a personal profit. Profit does not mean financial profit, it could be emotional, spiritual, financial or physical. A grandparent shares joy with a grandchild — they both profit in the enhanced emotional outcome. But if a grandparent has to put up with a pure evil grandchild, the transaction might not be profitable for the grandparent in any way. This is how family relationships fall apart — one party invests (time, emotions, money) and the other party takes advantage.

The chicken-Man seem to always be at the disadvantage, and they constantly try to convince themselves that they’re happier because they’re willing to give instead of take. The biggest myth I think we see in male society is that it is wrong to walk away ahead from any transaction — we have to accept every price, give rather than receive and put up with bad managers, bad girlfriends and bad customer service. When we watch movies or television, the average Man on TV is the epitome of a chicken-Man, and they’re always successful. The sweet guy gets the girl in the end, the nice guy becomes the boss, the gentle guy beats the evil villain. This is not how life works, though, as the sweet guy ends up alone on Friday night, the nice guy stays the employee and the gentle guy gets walked all over and send home packing.

Breaking yourself of the chicken moniker is actually a very easy process, one that requires gauging what would make every relationship transaction profitable for you — and profitable for the other party. The big problem is figuring out what the other party really needs instead of what they say they need. Just as a car dealer won’t show you his true invoice price, you have to know what every person you’re dealing with really wants and needs. When it comes to women, their secret desire is a complete 180 from what you’ve been told all your life.

This site is now part of the Global Unanimocracy Network.

In my 31 years on this planet, I have met many people all over the world. I have been fortunate enough to hang out with the wealthy elite and the unemployed poor. I have lived in the nicest cities and I have lived in the worst ghettos. Through all of this, I have only met 3 different kinds of men.

In recent years, I’ve realized that these 3 kinds of man can be labeled with basic imagery terms to make it simple to remember them. I’ve been able to not only judge people’s ability to perform from these basic terms, but I’ve also been able to figure out how I can profit from my relationship with them. If you’re going to be a regular reader of this site, you’ll understand that the terms “profit” and “relationship” are key to being a man, and there is nothing wrong with combining the terms.

My imagery words to label the 3 different kinds of man are bird names: hawk, chicken and vulture. The images that pop into your head upon thinking of those 3 words is exactly the way I will explain the man and what he is about, at his base.

80% of men I meet are chickens — they’re meek, they’re shy, they’re uncertain and they’re definitely not in control of the relationships they’re half of (lovers, business, family and friends). You might be considered a chicken if you fear interaction and confrontation and you’re worried about showing self-interest to the other party. I was a chicken for more than half of my life before I realized what I’ll be telling you here.

About 19% of men I meet are vultures — they’re jerks, they’re irresponsible, they’re broke, they’re possibly abusive, they demand respect and the chickens wonder why they get all the attractive women. The common term for a vulture is “asshole” especially from a chicken’s perspective.

The remaining 1% are the hawks — they’re self assured, they’re capable of making and holding eye contact with everyone, they’re the first one to put people at ease, they don’t demand respect but they command it anyway, and you’re not quite sure of what they’re about, but you want to know more. This is the end goal of what I’m providing here — to turn you chickens into hawks and to make sure the vultures stay away. I’m a geek, but a geek-hawk. There’s nothing wrong with being in control of yourself and getting what you want, as long as everyone you interact with get what they want as well. That’s the power of being a hawk — you learn what the key to every relationship interaction is: mutual gain.

When it comes to dating advice, it all falls into line with my living advice. There are no secrets, really, nothing special to learn or books to buy. Some people I’ve spoken to initially though that I was trying to mimic Doc Love or Fast Seduction but I’m not. I have no desire to turn you into those “by the book” guys who end up being vultures. I want you to be a Man, not a macho moron. There’s a big difference.