Be A Man

In the past three articles, I gave the basic definitions of the 3 types of Man. Most of the focus of the definitions seems to fall on the appearances a Man might hold — the car they drive, the clothes they wear, the credit card they flash, even the woman on their arms. Yet the appearance of any Man is merely the end game, it is never the reality. Just as you should not judge a book by its cover, you can not judge a Man by their appearances.

I’ve had friends in my life with similar appearances — high end sports cars, big condos, gorgeous girlfriends and platinum credit cards. Yet these almost identical outsides were very different on the inside. Some of my wealthiest appearing friends have the worst fear of even themselves on the inside — they don’t know how they succeeded, and they’re afraid of losing everything hence the fake exterior they display.

I used to live this way — big house, flashy car, big spending when I went out. I hid my inner fear by impressing others with items I didn’t even own. I figured the ladies would want me more if I appeared to have a big bank balance. I attracted the worst type of friends and females — the gold diggers. Many of the people I knew then wouldn’t remember me today.

Becoming a hawk is not a difficult procedure, but it does require giving up false appearances. The phrase “honest is the best policy” is not true to me — the perfect Man doesn’t lie, but he doesn’t have to give up any of his secrets either. False appearances hurt the perfect Man because he has to spend time keeping up appearances. It is better to clothe yourself with what you can afford, drive a car that costs you little every month, and live in the smallest home that is truly comfortable for you.

Yet you might not be in a position to quickly get rid of the falsehoods in your life — and that’s OK. Focus on the false appearances you can control. Stop shopping on credit, stop pretending you earn more than you do. If you continue reading my articles, you’ll see that the power in money is to never let anyone know how much you have — don’t let them know you’re rich or poor. When you buy items, buy the best that meets your needs now and in the future, but don’t spend frivolously. Don’t buy more than you need or can use, and take good care of what you have. The poorest man can live better than the wealthiest if they make their money count, and if they keep their finances muted, they’ll raise the interest level of those around them.

I don’t live flashy, but I do live well. I don’t earn as much as 90% of my friends, but I have more to show for it. I spend 10% of what the average person does in my upper-middle class town, but I have nicer things in smaller numbers. The focus isn’t what I can have (owned by others through the credit they offer) but what I do have — bought by me through meticulous research and self-questioning. Mystery and suspense is what attract business customers, women and friends. Mystery and suspense is what keeps the coming back for more of what you’re offering. Yet the stress of living beyond your means quickly destroys your ability to keep your cards to your chest.

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