Be A Man

LAS VEGAS, NV

By A.B. Dada
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It’s a common question, and also a very common search phrase at Google — do short guys have a problem dating? It would seem so, according to some statistical websites, such as the Short Person Support site.¹ The site shows some interesting statistics — women seem to prefer taller guys. That site says that 8% of women who are 5′6″ would choose a shorter guy, and 13% of women 5′8″ woudl choose a shorter guy. But I know these statistics are wrong — I’m a shorter man (5′7″) and I definitely haven’t had problems dating. In reality, it isn’t the height of the man that is the problem, it is the attitude that comes along with most men, tall or short. While women may THINK they won’t date a short man (or a shorter man), in reality most women just won’t date an unconfident man. Why is it that short guys tend to not have confidence? Maybe they were raised with a fear that women won’t date them! It is a viscious circle — shorter guys fear that they won’t have luck with a certain woman, and their lack of confidence ends up showing that to be true. This leads that woman to believe she doesn’t like the guy because of his height, instead of realizing that he’s just not confident.

That IS a fact, in my experience. Women like confident men, but women tend to not realize it. I’ve met more confident tall men than short ones, but I have also met my share of terrible unconfident tall men. The few guys that are naturally confident just don’t realize that’s what they have that other guys don’t. A naturally confident man is much more attractive to women, even if he’s not physically special. Time and again do we see “ugly” guys with pretty women, and we figure it is because they have money or they have connections. What most people don’t see is that they’re confident — it is the confidence that got them the money and the connections. When you’re confident, you can attack tasks with a greater chance of success. A confident short man is much more likely to get a job at an interview. A confident short man is much more likely to be the center of attention at a party. A confident short man is much more likely to get a woman’s phone number and get that important first date. It has nothing to do with your height, it has everything to do with how much you believe in yourself, in your ability to communicate, in your ability to lock eyes with anyone at any time, in your ability to command respect without having an attitude or a mean streak.

If you’re short, don’t be down on your height — tallness can be a talent, but it can also be a weakness. Regardless of your looks, wealth, intelligence, sense of humor or even your height, get started on being confident in all that you have, and disregard all you don’t have. Dreams and fantasies about changing something unchangeable won’t work for you with the ladies, the bosses, the pals and the family — but being confident starting today will.

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