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Since rebirthing this site, I’ve started to receive more e-mails than ever before — thanks to StumbleUpon and other collaborative networks. I appreciate all your e-mails and questions, and even your criticisms and complaints.

Last week I received quite a few critical e-mails from both friends and people who were new to the site. The most common criticism is reports of men who told me that their relationships with their wives broke all the rules in the beginning, and their relationships are fine. I’d like to address these criticisms with my experience of dealing with women in my 18 years since becoming a man.

First of all, not all women are the same — absolutely not. The few friends who criticized me last week shared something with most of the readers who had the same criticisms: they were not dealing with what I call the modern woman. There is a difference between dealing with modern women and dealing with the woman who was raised with old-fashioned morals or thoughts on relationships.

The fastest answer in how to date, and even marry, a great woman is only go after those raise with old-fashioned morals. Yet this is not a good answer, because those women are becoming hard to come by, and even harder to date if you have taken on any modern man traits. The single men I am friends with are generally attracted to the modern woman — old-fashioned women come off as fuddy-duddy to them and uninteresting. The married man that I am friends with are almost all married to modern women, and every man I know who has been divorced in the past 10 years divorced from a modern woman.

For this site, I cover only the modern woman, not the old-fashioned one. If you are lucky enough to meet an old-fashioned gal, and you’re also one who finds attraction towards the older-ways, this site will absolutely, positively not be where you want to be. For the rest of us who prefer the moderm woman, the goals should be the same: build your confidence and your knowledge of the modern woman’s needs and desires, and you’ll do just fine, even better than if you didn’t know the basic rules of engagement.

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